Family is Happiness

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The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.

– Ashley Montagu
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Throwback family photo, 2011

 

I love my Family! =)

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Stress Reliever: Coloring

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I was introduced by a friend of mine to anti-stress coloring book. I think i have to give it a shot. So, i bought a “starter” book. Not that bad. It doesn’t costs much and i love the graphics.

So how does this coloring hobby becomes a stress reliever?

Using adult coloring books is not art therapy, but can help you relax, reduce stress and boost mental clarity, according to Deane Alban.

A surprising trend in relaxation products has been the explosion of coloring books for adults, these days. When engaged in their hobby, “colorists,” as they call themselves, say that their worries temporarily fade away.

Well, i guess, as a “colorist” myself, it’s true. It has become as a pre-bedtime ritual. Truly relaxing. And, don’t forget that it’s electronic-free. A good reason to be away from any electronic gadgets.

 

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As expected, my daughter Z “helped” me. I can’t say no to my little girl. Never mind the mess. =)

Not everyone likes to color alone.

Coloring has even become a social activity, a modern equivalent of a quilting bee. You can share your works, get tips, and find templates to color on Facebook’s Coloring Books for Adults public group. I am a member of a coloring group and it’s amazing to see their works and learn from the “masters of colors”. They share advice on what pens to use, how to’s and you get to also meet them during a special “colorists” gathering.

Just keep in mind that coloring books are not a substitute for art therapy and that coloring does not provide the same mental health benefits as creating art.

Each of us has their own choices and likes, so if this coloring appeals to you. Then go, buy a coloring books for adults and start coloring. Don’t worry if you mess up with the colors and lines. What matters is, the simple anti-stress benefit you’ll get from it.

 

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Marriage & Moments

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A lot of research shows that people who remain married to one partner are the happiest, and that married people are statistically happier and live longer than their non-married counterparts. But, do we even exactly know why some marriages work and some don’t?

If there will be a real “formula” for a perfect marriage, then all the marriages will be separation/divorce-proof. Does a “perfect” wife or husband exists?  Perfect is a big word, a big challenge, a big miracle, i guess.

Nobody’s perfect. That’s a fact. I am not perfect, nor my husband. But we do find perfect ways to live happily. For me, “perfect ways” could just mean…being contented enough. It’s the way we perceive things around us.

Wait.

Why am i talking about this?

One of my long lost friend confessed her marriage is over, after nine years of being together. “Why is that?”, i asked her. “I don’t know…maybe we just took each other for granted…”.

“..took each other for granted…”

This phrase kept on echoing on my mind. How can it be possible for a couple, fallen in love, stayed for long years, then suddenly it’s over?

I can’t answer that for my self either.

When you’re married, you need to be realistic with your relationship expectations. I repeat, “nobody’s perfect!” Expect the personal weaknesses and imperfections of each other. After all, we are human.

Human commit mistakes. Human have emotions. Human can be impulsive. Human can hurt.

Marriages need work: Team work. Always a two-way relationship.

A simple compliment, gesture, surprise or deed will always be a good ingredient to a good marriage. People in happy marriages feel appreciated, loved, and respected. Remind your spouse of their talents, strengths, and what you love and like about them much more.

Don’t take your partner for granted.

I always believe, regularly laughing together may even be more powerful to have a lasting marriage or relationship.

Reminisce about your happy and funny times. It’s a great way of staying bonded.

“Remember when we had our vacation……”

“Do you remember that funny thing that happened last year…”

Us? Me and my hub used to cuddle before sleeping, or after waking-up (especially during weekends), then reminisce and laugh about the stupid or wacky things we did, or we’re doing. Never a dull moment. Sometimes we can’t breathe of laughing. Try those moments. It lessens the stress, lightens up some worries, and stamps a big smile on your face throughout the day.

Good luck & best wishes!

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Happy Universal Children’s Day

November 20 is a special event for the kids.

Happy Universal Children’s Day!

“Your children are the greatest gift God will give to you, and their souls the heaviest responsibility He will place in your hands. Take time with them, teach them to have faith in God. Be a person in whom they can have faith. When you are old, nothing else you’ve done will have mattered as much.”
Lisa Wingate

AOM_4124Photo courtesy of Arnold Mangahis 

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